Humans have such a ton to bear. I wonder how or why this happened. Reminds me of the Zhuangzi-Butterfly story. Zhuangzi dreamt he was a butterfly, not knowing he was zhuangzi, doing as he pleased then woke up. Wasn’t sure if he really was the butterfly dreaming he was zhuangzi or the other way around. And sadly Zhuangzi is basically forgotten in China. I use to live there as a teacher.
I do love butterflies, but even though humans seem to bear a lot in this world amazing things can be accomplished. Too bad there seems to be a lot of craziness going around.

I think with this subject, personal perspectives play a huge part. It’s funny that even when I have felt “free” love, it’s usually been when I am by myself, basically it was not directed toward people. I wonder if it’s something inherent in our relationships with people that changes the way we feel love for them.

I agree with you that loving cannot exist without not-loving. It seems that not-loving and loving create each other out of definition. The definition of everything lies in part in their absence I suppose.

Ruda

I have questioned what love is to me. Its such a hard thing when taking into account how I grew up and probably for others. People seem to talk about love being something apart from “not-loving” but all I can remember is dealing with love in relation to that. It doesn’t make much sense to me at this point for love to exist with not loving.
It doesn’t make sense, but I can’t say I have love without contradiction.
Sadly there have been periods in my life where I have felt some sort of “free” love, but it was so fragile it quickly turned into attachment, fear, this whole rather boring state. Maybe it wasn’t really free or maybe it was and I thought about it too much.
I only rarely ever feel some sort of free love when I am alone outside in the woods with nature and it is indeed fragile and rather random. But surely I question that because if I can’t have a relationship like that with humans… well I don’t know.
Hah sorry I replied so personally. I don’t care to hide my personal perspectives, but thats all I’ve got. Hopefully it at least gets some dialogue going.
It does seem to me that love is indeed fragile and sensitive. But as a human its important to control things. This is something I’ll have to ponder over.

Alex