Capacity for Love
Posted by Ruda in Emotions on 04. Sep, 2010 | 0 Comments
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Although it is a wonderful thought, unconditional love is something that not everyone can realize or practice. Not that it is unattainable or nonexistent, most simple lack the capacity to do so. They lack the state of mind that allows for something like this to happen. Of course we can all practice love to some degree. We can practice what we allow ourselves to, but the biggest limiting factor in attaining the ideal form of love is ourselves.
Most of us have so many other issues and inconsistencies in our personality and behavior, in our conscious and subconscious mind, that there is little focus left over for thing outside ourselves. Trying to love someone purely and unconditionally while dealing with all these other problems is like trying to whisper inside a nightclub. It’s only if we can sort out and rid ourselves from the other battles that we can truly experience love and all it has to show.
So many of the problems that arise in romantic relationships are a result of the participants’ lack of awareness. If a person does not know themselves or what they want, how can they expect to know the other person? If it’s too difficult to get to know the person that is constantly inside our minds, how can we know people we only observe? Without having a firm base in ourselves, we cannot expect to fully experience what’s outside us. We stay too involved in our own crises and feelings without the ability to remove us from us and love the other.
The trap too often for most is to project fears and insecurities onto the relationship and the partner. If we don’t have these sorted out already, then they simply pollute our connections and handicap our potential for true love. This true love does not only exist in relationships and romance, but with anything and everything. But none of it is possible without a clear mind and spirit. To add another analogy, it would be like exploring the world through dirty glasses. How could we truly love what we saw without seeing it in its actuality? In the movies and TV that surround us, our character creations seem to be constantly in search of love and constantly questioning why they have not “found love.” But the real answer is that it is because they cannot find it the way they are. They are incapable of it and will be until they have found themselves.
